Love vs Infatuation

Love vs Infatuation........author unknown...
What, then, is the elusive thing called "Love" that everyone so desperately needs? Sometimes, we sort of like this girl because she is beautiful? Or the girl likes him because he is handsome? But this kind of "Cinderella Syndrome" when the girl is waiting on her Prince Charming, is not real love. It is better known as "Infatuation" , and there is a vast difference between it and real love. Enumerated here below are the differences.
Find out if you are really in love and not just infatuated.

Infatuation -
Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the Emotions and the Will are involved. Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love. Gentlemen, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint? This is infatuation. It is based totally on physical attraction; Often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus infatuation is mostly biological.

Also remember, never tell a woman you love her, unless you are willing to marry her. Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless. Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and your "feelings" than it is in the other person.

Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person.

Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love.

Love - Now you understand what is infatuation, let us now go on to discuss about Love.

1. Love is Patient -
   The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfillment of expectations. When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out of her shell, if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view – maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding. Have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, Love is willing to give the relationship time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.
   
   
2. Love is Kind -
   Love seeks to encourage and build up on others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others. It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy, i.e. Compliment one another, magnify the other's strength, Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important, etc.
   
   
3. Love is not Jealous -
   Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget about me!" Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others.
   
   
4. Love is not to Brag -
   Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress. Often, a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt himself. Others will exalt him.
   
   
5. Love is not Arrogant -
   Love is not conceited, boastful, cocky or stuck up. Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude . Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanor implies, "You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you". Of course this is not love.
   
   
6. Love always Covers -
   This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep confidential. Love is patient with faults of others. It doesn't criticize or broadcast to the world the faults of others. Love is present even when it knows the other is not perfect.
   
   
7. Love always Perseveres -
   Love always stands its ground and holds out . It will outlast anything. It will even love on the face of unreturned love. Real love will last through all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.
   
   
8. Love is not Provoked -
   This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended. Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is other-centered not self-centered. Love says, "I love you, I want to give you." Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"
   
   
9. Love does not act Unbecomingly -
   This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonorably, or indecently. It does not embarrass others by its actions. It is characterized by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manners. Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl or offering her your arm when you walk together.
   
   
10. Love is Forgiving -
    Lastly, this is a MUST for a successful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget when his girlfriend is only an hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Love doesn't hold grudges when it has been wronged. It doesn't remain resentful.

Dating process

Dating process:
6 weeks : I love U, I love U, I love U.
6 months : Of course I love U.
6 years : GOD, if I didn't love U, then why the hell did I propose?

Back from Work:
6 weeks : Honey, I'm home.
6 months : BACK!!
6 years : What did your mom cook for us today??

Gifts:
6 weeks : Honey, I really hope you liked the ring.
6 months : I bought you a painting; it would fit the motif in the living room.
6 years : Here's the money. Buy yourself something.

Phone Ringing:
6 weeks : Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
6 months : Here, for you.
6 years : PHONE RINGING.

Cooking:
6 weeks : I never knew food could taste so good!
6 months : What are we having for dinner tonight?
6 years : AGAIN!!!!

Apology:
6 weeks : Honey muffin, don't you worry, Ill never hold this against you.
6 months : Watch out! Don't do it again.
6 years : What's not to understand about what I just said??

New Dress:
6 weeks : Oh my God, you look like an angel in that dress.
6 months : You bought a new dress again???
6 years : How much did THAT cost me?

Planning for Vacations:
6 weeks : How do 2 weeks in Vienna or anywhere you please sound??
6 months : What's so bad about going to Istanbul on a charter plane?
6 years : Travel? What's so bad about staying home???

TV:
6 weeks : Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
6 months : I like this movie.
6 years : I'm going to watch ESPN, if you're not in the mood, go to bed, I can stay up by myself
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Romantic Date Ideas

Romantic date ideas are being searched for all over the internet. The reason for the mass amount of searching for these keywords is because people in relationships are realizing how important it is to go out every once in a while, without the kids, without your friends, just you and your loved one. Doing this helps to keep the partners in a relationship close and focused on each other. The more one-on-one time you can spend with your loved one, the more time you will have to bond and to get more intimate with one another. What makes a romantic date you may ask. When you are thinking of this question, remember 3 simple ways to classify a romantic date. It is generally a romantic date idea if you are with your partner one-on-one, you get the chance to talk and learn about each other, and if you become closer because of it.

The first way to decide if a date is a romantic date idea is to ask the question are you alone with your date. There are situations where a date can be romantic with a group of people, but most of the time, you want a romantic date to be just the two of you. Having a family night where it is you, your partner, and your kids, or a friends’ night where you leave the kids with the sitter and go out with your friends are two great ways to bond with people you care a lot about. However, there are some times that you just have to explain to everyone that you need time out from everyone but that special person. This helps to bring a closeness that just doesn’t happen around other people.

Another way to determine the "romanticness" of a date is to know whether you will get the chance to talk and learn more about each other. Going on a roller coaster ride sounds like a very fun date, but it would not be the first date that I would classify as a romantic date idea. Screaming down a coaster track may be a way to have a great time, but romance might be lacking from the equation. If you were to go out to a dinner or a nice quiet picnic after the amusement park, that is a way to get romance into the situation. Laying on a blanket beneath the stars or eating over soft candlelight are two dates that first pop to mind when thinking of romance.

One other way to decide whether you have a romantic date idea is to determine whether you will be closer emotionally to your partner. A romantic date doesn’t have to be a fancy dinner and expensive wine. Romance can happen when you are eating hot dogs from a hot dog vendor in a park. It can happen shopping for groceries at a local supermarket. In other words, it is not the setting that determines whether a date is romantic or not. The outcome is much more important in concluding whether or not a date is romantic.

A romantic date idea is generally easy to recognize. First, you must be able to get alone with the one you love. This means, no kids, no friends, and no other family. Secondly, find out whether or not you will have a chance to talk and get emotionally closer to each other. The third thing that can help determine whether or not a date is romantic is the outcome of the date. When emotional closeness is the outcome of a date, no matter what other factors are involved the date has been successfully romantic.

Ten Inexpensive Unique Dating Ideas

You do not need to have a lot of money for a pleasant time with a date. Ten inexpensive unique dating ideas are to be introduced here, which have a comfortable and special quality for everyone on a budget:

A cup of tea, coffee or glass of wine at the starbucks, the barnes and nobles or the bookshop of borders is a pleasant place to go. Some nights of weekend, some of the bookshops even freely have live entertainment.

To pack a small basket for picnic and to put in biscuits, cheese and fruit fresh. You can go to a park or a pleasant duck pond and put back the people of observation all while resting on a cover. It is something which is pleasant and very slackening.

To jump in the car to take an order. To explore a close city, to lead to a lake or to check large houses or fields.

To go to a zoo, a museum or a botanical garden which are in your sector. To save a little money to bring some sandwiches and snacks as many public places inflate the cost of food due to the fact that they attract tourists

The campuses of university have readings, concerts and plays of poetry which are often free or at very reduced price.

Head outside for a cup of frozen ice cream. This can be enjoyable and to spout out for sprinkles and m and m toppings will bring back memories of childhood.

To lead to a music store or to go to the cd section of a bookshop where you can put on ear-phones and check out the various tunes. To test the musical, the current hits and tunes which you did not hear in the moment. The division of your preferred tunes is a manner of developing more narrowly.

To seize a book of poetries, quotations inspired or sonnets and to bring them outside to a nice adjustment. If it makes cold remain in the car with heat. If time feels comfortable to rest outside and to take turns reading between them.

To throw a frisbee in park. If you both appreciate the frisbee which can be nice to treat. A play of hook can also be enjoyable as well as to observe the local play teams. They have often only some parents and would appreciate the support!

To leave for the lunch. This should not cost much and the lunch is the meal preferred for many people. You can make it special by each one which brings the items of a couple which are important for you. I did this when I was younger and my friend brought a marvellous geode and photograph.

How can you be kissed the way you want to be kissed?

1. Take control:You and your partner are kissing. You gently start to take control by placing your hands on either side of his face, holding his cheeks and guiding his lips. In doing so, you are in control of the amount of pressure and motion of his mouth and, in turn, he feels the warmth of your hands. This can be especially good if your partner's mouth is too loose or open for you.Then it is your responsibility to kiss him as you LOVE TO BE KISSED.

2. Get him to follow your lead:Stop when you want and tell your partner, 'I just love kissing. It's the one thing that gets me ______________ [fill in the blank; for example, you might add the word 'hot' or 'turned on']. Then look at him and say, 'Will you show me what it feels like to be kissed by me?'

3. Introduce a fantasy:Tell him that you had a dream the other night about how he was kissing you -- and it was fabulous. Whether or not you actually had this dream, what you need to do is have an idea about what you want to ask for. So think ahead to how you want to blend the new kissing style or technique you want with what he already does. That way, you're not asking for a completely different thing and won't risk offending his ego. If you can't manage to explain what you want fully using your dream, tell him,'You did something like this' and then show him what you want.

4. Praise your partner:Let your partner know when he has kissed you right.
If he does something you really like, repeat it on him and ask if it feels as good to him as it did to you. To tweak his style, it's important that you use one-word directions, such as 'lighter,' 'left,' 'right,' etc. Men have shared with me that sentence-long guidance feels like criticism, while one-word comments sound like gentle direction. Remember that while you may feel that the more you tell, the better, he will be hearing your words through his own sexual gender filter.

Questions to Ask About a Dating Partner

1. Can you name at least five characteristics of this person you really admire and like?
2. Is this person glad that you have other friends?
3. Does this person ask for your opinion about things?
4. Does this person have good relationships with his/her family and friends?
5. Does this person both talk and listen?
6. Do you consider this person a friend?
7. Do you "act like yourself" when you are with this person?
8. Does this person have other interests besides you?
9. Does this person want to know every detail about where you've been and who you've been with when you're not together?
10. Does this person lose his/her temper easily?
11. Does this person get angry or hurt if you don't pay enough attention to her/him?
12. Have you ever seen this person throw, hit or break things when angry?
13. Is this person jealous of your friends and relatives?
14. Does this person use drugs or alcohol?
15. Does this person seem to have trouble controlling his/her anger?

If you have answered "Yes" to some or all of these questions you may want to talk with a trusted friend or adult about your dating relationship. You could be in a potentially dangerous situation.
Once you've "tested" your dating partner, try answering these questions in relationship to your own behaviors with a dating partner. Are there a lot of "Yes" answers? Once again, please think about talking with a trusted friend or adult. It could be a life-changing experience.